One of my graduates posed a question to me today, and it’s a question that I think most in the “healing” or self-help profession don’t know the answer to.
As coaches, hypnotists, therapists and other professionals, we invest ourselves in our work like no other profession.
We invest not only with our hearts and our minds, but also, our energy.
Have you ever noticed that after a long day of working with clients, you feel drained?
Having one of the most rewarding careers I could imagine, I used to often wonder how something that made me feel so good, could also leave me so drained.
The Natural Flow of Energy
Speaking spiritually, energy flows much like water. It flows from higher energy to lower energy.
I’m sure you’ve had the experience of being around someone who you might call an “energy vampire.” These are people who drain us with negativity, drama, or just by being around.
This is how the flow of energy works. You have a higher energy, they have a lower energy, so they drain you by the very nature of the flow of energy. Since the contrast with energy vampires is so great, we feel it immediately.
With your clients, it will be more subtle, yet it can build up and leave you feeling generally drained.
An Ancient Hawaiian Secret Rejuvenates
The secret to overcoming this drain lies in an ancient Hawaiian philosophy called, Ho’oponopono.
The Hawaiians believed that for each person we come in contact with, we form an energetic connection with them. You might imagine that as a silvery thread connecting your third-eye (forehead) to their third eye.
Imagine there are “cords” connecting you to each of the people you’ve connected with in your life. Thousands of connections, some of them feeding your energy, and some of them draining it.
To “reset” the connection, you cut the cord, with love, acceptance and forgiveness.
Whether you believe this process is an energetic one, or a metaphorical exercise for your unconscious mind doesn’t matter. Either way, the technique works wonders for your own energy. It’s very simple to do, and you can do this for family, friends and co-workers as well as both new clients, and all the clients you’ve ever seen in a short period of time.
The Process of Ho’oponopono
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian philosophy based on the principles and methods of Hawaiian Huna. Many techniques have been created based on this philosophy, and the following is one I particularly like.
Ho means, “To make.”
Pono means, “Right.”
So, Ho’ Oponopono means, “To make right twice.” It is the Huna process for forgiveness.
Cutting the cord does not mean you can never communicate with that person again. It simply means that person will not have the energetic connection with you in this moment. That connection can always be recreated through contact or even through prolonged thought about them.
If you don’t want the connection, simply cut it again, next time. Because of this, I recommend that you cut the cord even with people you love, if you feel that connection isn’t serving you. You can always recreate it again at another time.
1. Imagine a stage in front of you, while you sit in the audience. The stage is rather large, and lit in the front. In the darkness at the back of the stage, you can see the shadows of all the people you’ve ever been connected with – family, spouses, partners, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, etc. While you can’t see their exact details, you notice that for each person, there is a silvery thread or “cord” coming from your third eye to each of their third eyes.
2. Beginning with the most impactful or strongest connection, ask the first person to come out to the front of the stage. (Usually starting with parents, then spouse, then siblings, intimate partners, friends, co-workers, and finally, clients)
3. Ask them, “Are you here to support me in being the most magnificent person I can be?”
If the answer isn’t a congruent, resounding, “Yes,” you may want to move on to step 4 and cut the cord, even if you love them. Otherwise, ask them to go to the back of the stage and bring up the next person.
4. Both say the following, and send these messages energetically through the cord, with meaning and feeling. Imagine them echoing the same message to you, both verbally and energetically:
- I love you.
- I forgive you.
- I release you.
5. With scissors, shears or your fingers, cut the cord and draw the remaining stub into your forehead. Watch as they begin drifting upward off the stage and floating up into the darkness and out of your awareness.
6. Repeat steps 2 – 5 for each person.
It’s important to remember that this is always done out of love and forgiveness.
There may be people in your life who you feel don’t deserve forgiveness, and you may be right.
The most important thing to realize is that this forgiveness is for you, not for them.
Hanging onto whatever it was that happened in the past only hurts you, and after doing this a few times you’ll realize the importance of creating that forgiveness within yourself.
Now, go heal thyself. 🙂