So many people say you cannot spot a narcissist or someone with a personality disorder until it's too late, but then they will tell you about the string of narcissists they have been in relationships with.
This is a clue.
While they may not consciously recognize the narcissist at the onset of the relationship the fact they keep "falling" into relationships with them is no accident.
I used to run this pattern myself with BPDs (people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Similar to narcissism, but more toxic). There is definitely something subconscious going on, because "normal" people are not attracted to narcissists.Read the rest of this entry »
Most people assume he's a dirty menace. He's kicked out in the middle of the night because he doesn't have enough money for a cup of coffee.
They don't realize the impossible downward spiral he's stuck in that put him there. They don't know that, even though he is homeless, he cleans and grooms himself every day in a locked Del Taco bathroom and washes his clothes at the laundromat with the precious little money he has to keep his sanity so he doesn't slip down the rabbit hole of becoming a "bum." They don't realize the support of his family and friends has run out (or at least he thinks it has).
They don't know him and they don't want to. Would you want to know him?Read the rest of this entry »
There has been a lot of talk lately about “the five second rule,” the subject of a book and media campaign by Mel Robbins.
The premise is that your brain is your enemy when it comes to success and achievement, so you have to trick it to be good at anything.
The author explains how procrastination and apathy caused her life to spiral out of control – a failing marriage, a career she hated, etc. – and the only thing that turned it around and “fixed” her life was counting down backward from five and taking action the second she gets to zero.Read the rest of this entry »
Have you ever forgotten someone’s name?
Of course, you have… it’s one of the most common (and embarrassing) situations.
What about a phone number? Or a to-do item on your task list?
If you’re like most people, you think you have a less-than-perfect memory.
In fact, you’re wrong... Research has shown for decades that the subconscious mind absorbs and records at an astonishing rate (over 2,000,000 bits of information per second) that your conscious mind (which processes only 126 bits per second) isn’t even aware of.Read the rest of this entry »
Regardless of where you live in the world, you are probably surrounded by people who are full of limiting beliefs about wealth.
The biggest challenge in trying to change this limiting mindset is a strong societal belief that we have to a) trade our time for money and b) work hard to earn money.
Many people wrongly believe that it’s impossible to become wealthy unless you’re given an unfair advantage (like an inheritance or a high-dollar education, even though 60% of the Forbes 400 richest people were born in poverty and/or are dropouts), you’re “lucky,” greedy, or even worse... a criminal.Read the rest of this entry »
Twenty-three years ago, at just 19 years old, I was homeless.
I wasn’t on drugs or alcoholic. I was just an angry, misguided kid with problems I didn’t know how to handle.
I spent the better part of six months sleeping on a park bench in Tustin Meadows Park in Tustin, California, USA.
I am now homeless again. But not in the way you might think…This time, things are a little different.Read the rest of this entry »
Are you an “aware” person?
Most people think they’re pretty aware and observant, but the fact is, our conscious awareness is tiny compared to the subconscious mind.
I’ll give you an example…
Take a moment to look around your environment. As you do, I want you to notice everything brown in your environment. Just take inventory of everything brown in your environment. Take about 30 to 60 seconds to try this.
Great. Got it? Good. Now...Read the rest of this entry »
Your sales results depend largely on your ability to build personal and emotional value for your prospects.
I have made countless purchases based purely on emotional appeal, while very few of my purchases in life have been based wholly on logic. If you think about your past purchases, you’ll probably say the same.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the study of influencing the subconscious mind through every-day conversation...Read the rest of this entry »
As an NLP trainer, people always ask me, “How can I make money with NLP?”
I remember starting out in this field. As an owner of my own software company, I was already versed in business and marketing, so I was able to break six-figures my first year in NLP. One of the biggest ways I help struggling NLP Practitioners, NLP Master Practitioners and NLP Trainers these days is by teaching them business skills to help them thrive with their NLP skills...Read the rest of this entry »
Go to any sales training (I've been through a ton of them) and you will be inundated with the same old stuff.
The Ben Franklin close, the sharp angle close, the take-away, distraction techniques...
A lot of that stuff worked well in the 70s, 80s, and even the 90s, but today's audiences are more sophisticated, more cynical and less trusting today than ever before.
So how do we get through to people whose shields are always "up"?Read the rest of this entry »
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